10 Tips for Asperger Singles in Dating

1.   Keep eye contact to the person you talk to.   look at the eyes for 1 sec, then move to his nose/forehead for 1 sec.   Is there another formula that works better for women?  or men?

2.   Do not interrupt other's conversation.   If you already interrupted, then say "
"excuse me,  sorry to interrupt, but this matter needs your attention"  or "excuse me, please continue, i'll be happy to wait"  or something like that

3.  Practice on strangers.    

4.  Draw a list of all the tasks you want to learn and do.  Then rank them from the simplest to the hardest.   Starts out with the simplest then methodically cross them out one by one

5.  If you do not understand why someone is angry/frustrate with you, say it.   Ask them to repeat or say in another way.   Offer them a drink (non alcoholic if possible).   It will cool them down and buy you some time.

6.  Learn the facial expressions.

7.  Measure your reaction time.   Improve the reaction time to recognize facial expressions and judge motives.

8.  Read a book
http://books.google.com/books?id=S_ffhMnsufAC&printsec=frontcover&dq=why+marriage+succeed+or+fail&hl=en&ei=-uAsTcWiFYOusAO1quCPBg&sa=X&oi=book_result&ct=result&resnum=1&ved=0CCYQ6AEwAA#v=onepage&q=why%20marriage%20succeed%20or%20fail&f=false

9.  Go out on a date, any date for practice sake.   But be cautious.  Tell your family where you are going and who you are meeting.  Initial meetings should all be in public!    Learn to judge people's motives.


10.   From Katie Jones's Husband.  Thank you both!

his suggestion is to find someone that you like and find attractive that has a lot of the same interests and skills that you have yourself. its easier to relate to someone that likes most of the same stuff that you do. for instance of you like video games look for a fellow gamer, or if you like to read try a bookworm . Being able to relate to your partner in likes and dislikes makes conversations etc easier for Aspies. He also said remember to check yourself when you get going on a topic of interest, allow for reciprical conversation back and forth rather than just going on and on , its a hard thing to do , and sometimes works best if you meet someone at a party or event and have a non aspie friend with you to kind of give you prompts and hand signals etc to know when yo ease up. He also said dont try to practice conversations etc , because then when they dont go the way you want them to you wont shut down. He also said take things in baby steps and keep initial meets short but fun , so you arent overwhelmed. gradually lengthen your dates over time. if you have a date that goes bad , reflect back on it and learn from it , but dont obsess about it , because it will make you panic and not want to date again. 11.  From the AspieWeb http://www.aspieweb.net/aspergers-dating-tips/